Annette Jean "Dolly" (Rose) Skuy passed away Saturday August 24th , 2024, in Tulsa, Oklahoma.
She was preceded in death by her parents, Harry and Hannah (Goldgar) Rose; her three brothers; the love of her life, husband Benjamin "Benji" Skuy; and son, Harry Skuy.
She is survived by daughter Belinda Ball and son-in-law Tim Ball of Tulsa; granddaughter Hayley Moore and husband Ryan Moore; two great grandchildren, Emery Moore and Camden Moore, all of Oklahoma City.
Dolly was born in Dallas, Texas and graduated from Forest High School. Upon graduating she began working at Sanger Harris.
Dolly enjoyed the single life, until she met the love of her life, on a blind date, Benjamin Skuy. After a whirlwind romance, they married and settled in Tulsa. Nine months later they welcomed a son Harry, and 26 months later, a daughter Belinda Skuy.
Although Harry was a special needs child, Dolly gave Harry as normal a life as possible. She was a den mother when he was in Cub Scouts. She was instrumental in getting Harry driving lessons, and her version of testing so he could be independent and drive... and he did, he was a high school graduate from Memorial High School. Harry loved his Jewish religion, music and attending Temple Israel events, and Dolly made sure he was able to attend as many events as possible. Harry even traveled to Israel, in conjunction with Temple and an Interfaith Group with supervision of Rabbi Sherman. He was "schooled" honing up on his "people skills", her own version of an etiquette course, making sure he was prompt with yes ma'am, no sir, please, and thank you. Later Harry took an interest in the family wiping cloth business, where he worked tirelessly his entire life.
Belinda was born with one functioning kidney and required multiple surgeries. Belinda received a lifesaving kidney transplant from her childhood best friend. Dolly made numerous trips to Oklahoma City, for Belinda's care. Dolly was able to travel and be in Oklahoma City for the transplant. She was the Dolly version of Meals on Wheels- you didn't have to ask- she was on it! You could call her anytime day or night, no questions. She had this innate sense of knowing when someone was in need: she was that kind of friend.
Dolly enjoyed life and volunteering. She loved her faith and served as 1st Vice President of the National Council of Jewish Woman and as Secretary. She also volunteered at St. John's Hospital for over 30 years. She started out at the information desk, then moved on to the Surgical Intensive Care and at the Cardiovascular Institute, or CVI. She held the office of Vice President and Secretary of the Auxiliary.
More than anything, she loved her family and friends. Dolly was known to bake cakes for friends, doctors, and nurses. This gesture started out with a few and grew to the count of 101 cakes each year. She started baking her "Dolly Cakes" after Halloween. It was a labor of love, and when she hand delivered them, there were smiles from ear-to-ear.
She also loved to make chopped liver during the holidays, which was a painstaking process. She would make enough for her deliveries, much to the delight and surprise of those who requested it.
Dolly was thrilled when she became a Nana and doted on her only grandchild Hayley. In elementary school she would ask what was for lunch and inevitably it would be Subway. She'd pick up orders for Hayley's friends and eat lunch with them. She loved to see the smiles and hear the giggles. They appreciated this, even at a young age, and were prompt with thank you's and hugs. This always made her day. During Hayley's high school years, Dolly attended softball games and orchestra concerts, where everyone knew Nana.
Dolly lived a full life, but little by little things didn't seem right. Before long she was not able to live alone. Her new home was Iris Memory Care. At first, it was quite a bumpy ride, but it became her new normal. She was a "yenta" of sorts, helping others getting used to their new surroundings. Especially if they were a bit loud. She would say:" Now we don't do that. Won't you come over here and sit?". They said Dolly helped so many people and it became her new normal. She had a purpose. She missed her home but would often say: "Everyone is so nice, the food is good, and I have a roof over my head".
We would like to thank Iris Memory Care and their caring staff for the past two years. It was a journey and one she resisted at first. Eventually, Dolly adapted where she loved to chat, made new friends, loved to win at games and collect prizes. She could be ornery and then would give you that "smile". Priceless.. The staff was kind, patient, supportive, and loved to banter back and forth.
We would also like to express gratitude to the friends that never forgot her by visiting her and bringing an occasional Popeye's or Starbucks. It brightened her day and meant so much to her. Dolly will always be remembered for her kindness, her witty sense of humor, her loyalty. She was that one in a million mother.
Graveside Services will be Sunday, September 8, 2024, 10:00 a.m., at Rose Hill Memorial Park Cemetery, in Tulsa.
The family suggests that memorial donations honoring Dolly be made to Temple Israel Security Fund or the Zola Brand Garden Fund, c/o Temple Israel.
Fitzgerald Ivy Chapel, 918-585-1151